How to Spot the Boundaries You Didn’t Know You Needed
5 Practical Steps to Build Better Boundaries
Boundaries often get a bad rap. People hear the word and imagine walls going up, shutting others out. But boundaries aren’t walls—they’re doors. They’re meant to protect your peace while still allowing meaningful connections. The trick is knowing which doors to keep open and which to lock.
Why Boundaries Matter
Setting boundaries isn’t selfish; it’s essential. Think of boundaries as the rules you set for how you’re willing to be treated. Without them, life feels chaotic, relationships get messy, and resentment builds. When you set clear boundaries, you’re not just taking care of yourself—you’re showing others how to love and respect you.
Here’s the thing: if you don’t establish boundaries, someone else will do it for you, and trust me, their priorities won’t match yours.
Signs You Need to Set Boundaries
Not sure if you’re overdue for a boundary makeover? Here are a few red flags:
You feel drained after spending time with certain people.
You say “yes” when you really want to say “no.”
You avoid confrontation, even when it means sacrificing your peace.
You’re constantly making excuses for someone’s behavior.
You feel guilty when you take time for yourself.
Sound familiar? It’s time to take your power back.
Practical Steps to Build Better Boundaries
Identify your non-negotiables. What are your must-haves in relationships, work, or even with yourself? Write them down.
Start small. Boundaries don’t have to be earth-shattering. Start with something simple, like not answering work emails after 8 PM.
Communicate clearly. Boundaries are only effective if you tell people what they are. Be direct but kind.
Stick to them. Once you’ve set a boundary, enforce it. If you let it slide, people will assume it’s optional.
Let go of guilt. Prioritizing your well-being isn’t selfish—it’s self-respect.
Practice Makes Progress
Boundaries take time and practice. You might feel awkward at first, and that’s okay. Keep reminding yourself that protecting your energy isn’t just your right—it’s your responsibility.
Get Ready to Dive Deeper
Feeling inspired? Our upcoming workbook will take you step-by-step through setting boundaries that align with your goals, values, and the life you want to create. Stay tuned—this is your time to thrive!